Dear Dr. Solution,
There was a time when I thought our love would stand the test of time and nothing could come between us. Unfortunately, the years have chipped away at our once perfect relationship and there is nothing left to hold on to. The way things are now, we are no longer a positive influence in each other’s life. We just make each other miserable instead of happy, and make life harder rather than easier. It is time to call it quits and go our separate ways.
I want her to know that I am not blaming her. I think we have both done everything we could and pursued every option available to try to keep this relationship together, but nothing has helped. We’ve had trial separations, gone to a marriage counselor for months, read self-help books and ordered Dr. Phil’s tapes. It should be clear to both of us by now that we are fighting a losing battle. The simplest problem or disagreement always gets blown up out of proportion and meaningful communication is no longer possible. The tension in our apartment is so thick you could cut it with a knife.
How many times have we said we have had enough and never wanted to see each other again, only to kiss and make up, then try again? Well, someone has to be the one to say enough is enough and I am doing it now. This time I am not coming back. I have moved in with an old friend until I can make other arrangements. When she come home she will see that I have packed my things and my drawers are empty. Inevitably, there will be things that mean so much to both of us that we will have to sit down together and decide who gets what. If we cannot do that amicably, then we will have to get lawyers to sort it out.
I believe that parting now is the best thing for both us. We still have our careers we can concentrate on and we both have friendly relationships with the children. Even though they are adults now, I know they will find this news painful, how do I break it to them?